Last week, my iPad stopped receiving texts from Android phones. They were there on my phone – why not on the tablet? I’m always up for a good puzzle, so I stayed up late into the night trying all the suggestions I could find on Google. I finally conceded for the moment, but the next day I was back at it. I eventually gave up and contacted Apple support. After a few dead ends, I finally got all the missing texts back on the iPad. What caused the problem? I don’t know. And does WHY really matter? I was mainly just relieved the issue was resolved.
Curiosity is natural
It’s satisfying to me to know why something happened. It can help prevent (or troubleshoot) future occurrences. But WHY was not as important to me as a solution was. And to be honest, the tech support explanation would probably have only been his best guess – a theory. So not particularly relevant in the big scheme of things.
This applies to beliefs, too
When I do presentations, I sometimes talk about the badge of honor some people feel when they have a pattern of staying up crazy hours into the night in order to get everything done. They are proud that they can put in all that effort and of all the things they need to get done.
It’s about time
Proud is a little misleading – what I mean is, there is some belief that equates all that doing with their value. I can relate – I did that dance for decades, juggling a demanding job with raising a family. I can remember that rush when I’d tell someone how late I stayed up the prior night because of some demand on my time and attention. But I’ve moved past that now.
Surprise – there’s more!
Imagine my surprise the other day, when I felt that same sense of accomplishment about how much pain I can endure. I seem to have created end-stage arthritis in one hip. I knew it hurt, and I’ve been working on it for a while, EXTREMELY frustrated because I haven’t been able to resolve it. (This is the type of thing I’ve helped so many others with – why couldn’t I help myself? But I digress…) In any event, the nurse was surprised that I wasn’t taking any pain medication, and that made me feel proud of myself.
What was this about?
I immediately started trying to figure out why I would think enduring pain was something to be proud of. When you step back and look at it, that’s nuts! And why doesn’t really matter, right? What matters is to change the belief(s) resulting in that emotion. I don’t consciously think pain is a good thing other than to alert you that something needs your attention. I just needed to transform my subconscious to support that.
Back to the WHY
I could have spent a great deal of time delving into my past, trying to find clues about this, but with the process I use it’s not important. The main thing is to decide what is wanted now and make the changes needed to allow that. It’s one of the things I appreciate most with this process because I frequently work with people who have painful pasts which limit their present and future. They are always relieved that they don’t need to know, or share with me, what those traumas were. It’s a gentle way to bring more peace into their lives.
Are you looking for relief?
If you have beliefs that are causing you pain, consider booking a call with me to see what is possible. Remember – the WHY really doesn’t matter.
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